tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5964676222279233355.post7741130687007753457..comments2019-09-22T10:41:11.201-04:00Comments on Loudoun Toastmasters Club: To thank the audience or not to thank the audience?Gary Bisaga (aka fool4jesus)http://www.blogger.com/profile/16238954438323198854noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5964676222279233355.post-18568235346510395752015-02-28T06:41:39.028-05:002015-02-28T06:41:39.028-05:00Thanks Gary. I'm honoured and flattered.Thanks Gary. I'm honoured and flattered.Craig Hadden - Remote Possibilitieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09073005333442573668noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5964676222279233355.post-38382990932411096672015-02-07T18:49:11.082-05:002015-02-07T18:49:11.082-05:00Craig, thank you for your comments. In my mind (an...Craig, thank you for your comments. In my mind (and it looks like in yours as well), it's really not the words or lack of words that matters: it's the attitude. I've heard "the audience should be thanking you" repeated to new speakers and I wanted to say "no! don't drink the poison!" (I actually did take that new speaker aside and advise him that being thankful for your audience is a Good Thing.) So, end with Thank You, or don't, it doesn't really matter: your face will show which one you have in your heart.<br /><br />This reminds me of something I was just watching: Darren Lacroix's "Own the Stage" DVD set. In there, he says that one of his pet peeves is people who end with a "THANK YOU" slide. But notice why: he said the audience should be able to already see on your face that you are thanking them. If you don't have THANK YOU written across your face, the slide is not going to say it in any way people will believe.<br /><br />Thanks again for the comment, and great work on your blog too. You are one of the ones who inspires me not only in my speaking career, but in my blogging about it.Gary Bisaga (aka fool4jesus)https://www.blogger.com/profile/16238954438323198854noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5964676222279233355.post-80128067587725418342015-02-03T01:36:16.512-05:002015-02-03T01:36:16.512-05:00Well said Gary! This subject is on my list of pote...Well said Gary! This subject is on my list of potential future blog topics, too.<br /><br />Like you, I can’t believe saying thank you is viewed so poorly. To me, a big part of the reason it’s taken on myth-like status is that there’s very rarely any reason given for the advice – it’s just stated as an unthinking command. Not stating a reason’s a dangerous habit!<br /><br />I get that there are far stronger ways to end than with “thank you”, just like there are stronger ways to open than with “good morning” (as Allan Pease did in his <a href="https://bitly.com/18IXtTD" rel="nofollow">TEDx talk on body language</a>).<br /><br />But for pity’s sake, why do people criticise the presence of 2 words at the start or end of a speech? In any talk, there are bound to be far more helpful things to complement or critique.<br /><br />You put it so well when you said “This kind of attitude is poison”.<br /><br />Keep up the great work!Craig Hadden - Remote Possibilitieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09073005333442573668noreply@blogger.com